Then I discovered an old spiritual practice called A Rule of Life. In simple terms, it’s choosing a list of actions to take in each area of your life. And here’s the beauty of it – if you’re doing those things, you can let yourself off the hook. No more guilt for not doing more!
So what does a Rule of Life look like? Every Rule will be different since it’s personal to you but generally it should be SHORT, SPECIFIC, PRACTICAL, and MEASURABLE. Here are some examples from mine:
1. PHYSICAL – I will average 8 hours of sleep a night, run 20 minutes a day 5 times a week, and eat a low-carb diet focused on minimizing sugar.
3. RELATIONAL – I will spend 4+ evenings a week hanging out with my wife, have lunch once a week with my accountability partner, and get together with a group of friends at least once a month.
As you can see from my list, this is not complicated. The goal of a personal Rule of Life is simply clarifying for yourself how you’re going to spend your resources of time, energy, and money. It’s living on purpose vs. drifting along. It’s being proactive vs. reactive. It’s naming specific actions that will help you live out what you say is important to you.
So how about you? What categories and action steps would make your list? Take 10 minutes to write out a simple Rule of Life. Implement your new choices one at a time. Celebrate your small victories. Share your Rule of Life with someone who can encourage you and hold you accountable. Enjoy the increase in your peace and productivity! If you do, you’ll take another big step toward Becoming Yourself.
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For more info on a Rule of Life, check out:
1. Instructions for Developing a Personal Rule of Life – this is a 3 page PDF on making your own Rule of Life. It has a spiritual focus but the overall principles and tips are helpful for non-faith based Rules as well.
2. The Spiritual Disciplines Handbook by Adele Ahlberg Calhoun – a good, easy to read book with 3-4 page entries on a variety of spiritual disciplines including A Rule of Life.
3. The Rules of Life: A Personal Code for Living a Better, Happier, More Successful Kind of Life by Richard Templar – full disclosure, this one I haven’t read but it came up in my research and thought it looked worth passing along.
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