You broke up with me and for the life of me
I couldn’t figure out what I did wrong
I’m so sorry, I’m usually the first one
To admit that I did wrong
Get over yourself, it’s no big deal
If I run a little faster than you on the playground
Get over yourself, what’s your problem
What’s your problem?
Well if you don’t like girls that are stronger than you
And if you don’t like girls that are faster than you
And if you don’t like girls that are smarter than you
Well then you might not like me
You might not like me
(Copyright Nathan Paul Chapman and Brynn Elliott)
Jesus was the perfect example of walking this tightrope. Whether or not you believe in his divinity, this man clearly lived a very humble life, embracing poverty (Matthew 8:20), rejecting power (John 6:15), and shunning popularity (Matthew 9:30). At the same time, he showed utter confidence in who he was (Matthew 26:59-64) and in his abilities (Luke 17:24). The Bible sums up Jesus’ humble confidence in Philippians 2:5-8: “You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had: though he was God, he did not think of equality with God as something to cling to. Instead he gave up his divine privileges; he took the humble position of a slave and was born as a human being. When he appeared in human form, he humbled himself in obedience to God and died a criminal’s death on a cross.”
Humble confidence really comes down to being comfortable in your own skin. Believing in your inherent self worth. That you are valuable. Flawed and in need of development, yes, but also good and worthy of the investment of time, energy, and attention. In short, you must believe you’re worthy of love. Love from yourself, love from others, and love from God (1 John 4:9-10).
So which side of the humble confidence blend do you need to work on? If it’s humility, apologize for your mistakes. Admit your weaknesses. Ask others with strengths in those areas for advice. Commit yourself to practices that will help you grow. If it’s confidence, look honestly at your gifts and achievements. Surround yourself with encouraging people. Read books that remind you of your inherent self worth. Speak positively about yourself and your abilities. Wherever you fall on this spectrum, practice being humbly confident. If you do, you’ll take another great step toward Becoming Yourself.
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