The simple fact is I was afraid. Afraid of – don’t laugh – the chiropractor. Let me explain.
A few years ago, I started having sharp pain in my back whenever I took a deep breath. I tried a massage, but the therapist thought I had a rib issue and needed a chiropractor. I’d never been before, but it seemed a smart move so I went.
She was right. I had two ribs out of place which the chiropractor promptly popped back in. It totally fixed my problem. But the adjustment hurt. A lot. I was assured by my wife and daughter, both of whom love going to the chiropractor, that my experience was an anomaly. When I decided to go back for a smaller issue a year later, it hurt like crazy again. That was enough for me. I swore off chiropractors unless it was absolutely necessary.
Fast forward to five months ago when I did something dumb. My wife and I were embracing minimalism, and in prep for our move from our house near Phoenix to an apartment in Sacramento, I spent hours sitting on the floor sorting through mountains of old paperwork. Since that time, I’ve been dealing with intermittent stabbing pain in my low back. It’s my body’s not so subtle way of reminding me that I’m 49, not 29.
I tried everything I could to avoid what I dreaded – going back to the chiropractor. Rest, pills, stretching, targeted exercises, you name it. Nothing worked for long. With my wife’s encouragement, I knew it was time to face my fear.
So a few weeks ago, I went to a chiropractor. Told him my issue. Shared my fears. The doctor was great, patiently explaining what he felt the problem was and outlining a care plan. Much to my disappointment, it meant a lot of adjustments – seven visits spread over a month. But with the pain of the last five months fresh in my mind, I took the plunge, deciding that if I was going to do this, I was going to do it right. I embraced my fear and signed up for the full treatment plan.
I’ve gone five times so far. There’s been some necessary pain in the treatments but nothing like what I experienced in the past. And the results have been great. My back is significantly better. And while it’s still not the favorite part of my week, I no longer dread going to my appointments and have even started looking forward to them.
As I thought about this experience, I realized that it’s a perfect example of a key practice of personal development – facing our fears. Sometimes, as much as we wish it were different, the only way to get where we want to go or become who we want to be is to embrace what frightens us. And often, as I found, when we finally face what we’re afraid of, it’s far less daunting than we’d imagined, leaving us asking ourselves “Why didn’t I do this a long time ago?”
“Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.”
George Addair
So how about you? What fears do you need to face? What task have you been avoiding? Is it having a hard conversation? Taking a risk at work? Ending a toxic relationship? Going to therapy? Whatever it is, take the plunge. What do you have to gain by waiting? You’re only robbing yourself of the peace, relief, and growth you could be enjoying right now. Tell someone you trust about your fear. Ask them for advice, help, and accountability. If needed, break the task into smaller chunks, then take the first step. Today. If you do, you’ll feel a lot better and make a big leap toward Becoming Yourself.
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So inspiring Matt. I needed this today.
Thank you so much! I'm really glad it connected with you. Thanks for reading and for the encouragement!