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Month: July 2025 (Page 1 of 2)

The Moral Duty of Finding Inner Peace

Ultimately, we have just one moral duty: to reclaim large areas of peace in ourselves, more and more peace, and to reflect it toward others. And the more peace there is in us, the more peace there will also be in our troubled world.

Etty Hillesum

Etty Hillesum wrote those words in her journal while she was an inmate at a Jewish prison camp in 1943. She was killed at Auschwitz soon after at the age of twenty-nine. I am in awe that such wisdom and maturity came from someone in that bitterly cruel circumstance, let alone someone so young. 

Her description of the cultivation of inner peace as a moral duty really struck me. I often think of my pursuit of peace as a self-centered endeavor, one sought for my personal benefit. But upon reflection, it’s obvious that my having a greater sense of peace also benefits those closest to me. We all know there is a distinct quality difference between spending time with a prickly person or a peaceful person. So it makes sense to extend that idea beyond my immediate inner circle. The more I am at peace, the more peace I bring to every situation and person I encounter, and therefore the more peace I spread into our troubled world. 

So how do we cultivate inner peace? For me, there are both surface things and deeper things that help. The surface things are schedule balance, rest, a day off each week, prayer and meditation, time alone, time with family and friends, serving others, exercise, and hobbies I enjoy. The deeper things are having a sense of meaning and purpose, loving and being loved, and experiencing hope and security. I find those later elements in my relationships with God and the people closest to me. When my surface habits get out of rhythm, or I neglect those deeper relationships, I lose my sense of peace.

So how about you? How’s your inner peace these days? What surface activities help cultivate it? What deeper elements do you need? Establish peace-generating habits. Prioritize peace-giving relationships. Focus on expanding your inner peace today, for yourself and our world. If you do, you’ll take another step toward Becoming Yourself.

This post (originally published in June 2021) was inspired by a meditation by Richard Rohr, founder of The Center for Action and Contemplation (www.cac.org). You can read more of Etty’s profound wisdom in that post here. The featured quote was by Etty Hillesum in An Interrupted Life: The Diaries, 1941-1943; and Letters from Westerbork, trans. Arnold J. Pomerans (Henry Holt and Company: 1996) p. 218.

In an Uncertain Season? Create New Labels

I’m in a strange place. 

Recently, I’ve been struggling to define my season of life. I’ve been a full-time author for several years, publishing five books and doing lots of speaking gigs. Currently, I have no books under contract and few gigs. I’ve got various writing projects going, but with Lisa and I traveling frequently as nomads, sometimes I’m not working at all.

While I love and am grateful for this lifestyle, an unexpected side effect is feeling like I’m stuck on a threshold, betwixt and between, caught in a liminal space. I’m wrestling with not experiencing the maximum benefits of either a full-time career or full-time retirement.

As someone who prefers clarity and defined lines, this season has left me with a vague sense of unease. The uncertainty has made it hard to plan my work flow or set appropriate expectations for myself. When I’m enjoying a new travel location, I sometimes feel guilty that I’m not working. When I’m working, I often feel like I’m missing out on travel experiences. 

I’ve been ruminating on this issue. Praying about it. Talking it through with my inner circle. Here’s where I’ve landed:

1. I’m semi-retired and work part time as a writer.

2. I write thriller novels, a personal development blog, and a nomadic travel newsletter.

Our nomadic travel newsletter on Substack

While that sounds painfully obvious, I really couldn’t see it before. My season of life felt murky and undefined. Assigning these labels has given me a much needed sense of clarity, handles that I can grasp, and a place to ground my feet.

Now when I’m enjoying the perks of travel, I can do it guilt free by reminding myself that I’m semi-retired. When I’m working, I can fully engage without stress by reminding myself that I’m a part-time writer. 

These labels provide a welcome structure to my life and routine. Do they eliminate all ambiguity? No, but I’m realizing that’s okay too. Embracing a measure of uncertainty is part of the human experience and the personal development process. As author Andy Stanley would say, finding seasonal clarity is not a one-time problem to be solved but an ongoing tension to be managed.

Me with my wife Lisa enjoying our nomadic life

Are you in an uncertain season? Do you feel stuck on a threshold? Articulate your angst. Be vulnerable with trusted people. Consult your higher power (if you have one). Create clear defining labels. If you do, you’ll find a fresh measure of clarity, and you’ll take another step toward Becoming Yourself.

Are You Fighting AGAINST or Fighting FOR?

Too often we think of fighting as “fighting against.” I have learned that when you “fight against” someone or some policy, that person or policy may actually be reinforced. Rather… we are called to fight for a vision that can be shared.

Simone Campbell

The above distinction struck home. 

As someone who wants to do my part to reduce suffering in the world, I realized that I often frame the struggle in terms of what I’m against vs what I’m for. I’m against people needlessly trapped by destructive habits. I’m against restricting rights for marginalized groups. I’m against unfair income inequality. Simone Campbell’s wise words made me reassess. What am I fighting for? How am I practically engaging in that fight in meaningful ways?

Here’s what I came up with:

1. I’m fighting for INDIVIDUAL healing by writing and sharing what I’m learning in this personal development blog. 

2. I’m fighting for CULTURAL healing by staying informed on important issues, voting my conscience, and advocating for others, especially marginalized groups (writing political leaders, attending rallies, etc).

3. I’m fighting for ECONOMIC healing by donating financially to organizations that effectively eradicate poverty like Heifer International

The reduction of suffering in the world is an issue I continually struggle with. As a straight, white, American male who is wealthy when compared to most of the world, I’m the epitome of privilege. I feel guilty at times—while some of my relatively comfortable life comes from hard work, wise choices, and practicing delayed gratification, much is the result of factors I had nothing to do with. In my desire to reduce suffering, thinking though what I’m fighting for is helpful.

What are you fighting for? What practical steps are you taking to influence that battle? Take a deep breath. Clear your mind. Clarify what you’re fighting for. Take an honest look at how you spend your time, energy, and money in that fight. If you do, you’ll find life-giving focus, and you’ll take another step toward Becoming Yourself. 

Simone Campbell, “The Shackles of Our Time,” ONEING 3, no. 1, Emancipation (2015): 38, 39. As shared in the July 5, 2025 Daily Meditation from the Center for Action and Contemplation (cac.org)

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