Developing a Better You

Author: Matt McMann (Page 30 of 97)

Matt McMann writes books for children and the personal development blog Becoming Yourself (becomingyourself.net).

Break Your Ruts by Challenging Your Assumptions

I love ruts.

I thrive in routines. They are comfortable. They are reliable. They make me more efficient.

They are also limiting. Fresh ideas, bursts of creativity, and breakthrough solutions to vexing problems are seldom born of routine. I was reminded of this by a recent article:

More than 90 percent of 61 British companies that participated in a test of a four-day workweek said they would continue trying out the policy, with 18 of them saying they were adopting it permanently. From June through November 2022, the companies shifted their 2,900 workers to working four days a week, or 32 hours, at the same pay. The companies logged “sharp drops in worker turnover and absenteeism while largely maintaining productivity,” The Wall Street Journal reported. The idea of shortening the conventional 40-hour, five-day week gained supporters during the coronavirus pandemic. Nearly half of the employees in the study said their mental health improved. Fifteen percent said “no amount of money” would convince them to go back to a five-day week.

the week magazine, february 22, 2023

The concept of a four-day work week is not new, but to my methodical, head-down-and-grind way of thinking, it’s a radical idea. The companies in this study demonstrated a willingness to challenge long-held assumptions and embrace out-of-the-box thinking. I deeply admire that.

As someone committed to personal development, I know this is a growth edge for me. Becoming the best emotional, mental, and spiritual version of myself requires an openness to new perspectives and the commitment to question familiar habits. While it may not come naturally, it’s necessary. What is normal is not necessarily what is best.

How about you? What emotional, mental, spiritual, or physical ruts are you in? List them. Analyze each one honestly. Hold no routine sacred. Brainstorm new approaches. Experiment with change. If you do, you may find a jolt of energizing growth, and you’ll take another step toward Becoming Yourself.

The Healing Power of Vulnerability

Admitting weakness is hard for me.

I prefer to share how the personal development practices I’ve learned help me lead a more joyful, peaceful, and meaningful life. But being open about my recent struggles in my last post brought relief. The act of sharing honestly, of being vulnerable, eased some of the weight I’d been carrying. And rather than judgement, I received a flood of support, understanding, prayers, and encouragement from so many of you. I was very touched and felt carried.

My family is settling in to the new normal of life without a loved one. My lingering physical illness is mostly gone. I’ve checked some big things off my to do list in advance of my books being released. The author part of my identity has shrunk into a healthier balance.

This experience reinforced a lesson I’ve learned again and again—being appropriately vulnerable with others about my struggles brings healing. Not only do I personally benefit from the love and support, but the people around me feel less alone in their own pain. 

So when the hard times come, drop your guard. Be honest. Let people in. Share your struggles. Embrace vulnerability. If you do, you’ll feel the weight begin to ease, and you’ll take another step toward Becoming Yourself.

When the Inspiration Stops

This is not a fun season. 

Last minute travel due to an unexpected family emergency. Lingering illness. Edit deadlines. Anxiety over the approaching release of my debut novels. These things have left me feeling flat, empty, and without much to say. 

Normally the words flow, and I have a clear idea of what I want to share here, something I hope will help you on your personal development journey. Lately… not so much. 

A hard reality of life is that sometimes the inspiration stops. Sometimes the familiar path leads to a broken bridge, and we have to find another way across. For me right now, that’s about writing. For you, it may be about your job or a relationship or your health or a loss of some kind. 

If you’re in that place, know that you’re not alone. Be kind to yourself. Breathe. Rest. Give yourself grace. Do something that fills your emotional tank. Complete one small task. Trust that eventually the clouds will lift, and the stream will flow again. If you do, you’ll soon feel hope stirring, and you’ll take another step toward Becoming Yourself. 

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