Developing a Better You

Author: Matt McMann (Page 30 of 99)

Matt McMann writes books for children and the personal development blog Becoming Yourself (becomingyourself.net).

Feeling Jumbled? Try Organizing Something

It had bugged me for months.

My wife and I have limited space in our small condo. We’re both book lovers, so our bookshelf was overflowing, and our novel floor stacks were a disorganized mess. We only have one closet for all our clothes, luggage, personal items, and supplies to run our author business. Over time, things had become jumbled and hard to find.

I’d finally had enough. I emptied our supply cupboards, tossed unneeded items, added a shelf, and put things back in a more logical way. We went through our clothes and culled our book collection. I arranged the remaining books by category, then hauled five full garbage bags to Goodwill.

With our reorganized closet and book collection, not only are things easier to find and more visually pleasing, but I feel lighter, more relaxed. My mind seems clearer, and my thoughts more organized. I’m reminded how much my inner state is affected by my outer one. When my surroundings are cluttered and chaotic, my mind and heart often follow suit.

The correlation is even greater with my schedule. When my days and nights are packed with events, meetings, and obligations, my inner world is muddled, like silt stirred in a pond. My recent sixteen-day book tour was an endless stream of people, places, and presentations, leaving me emotionally and mentally exhausted. Now, after some days off and clearing my schedule, my equilibrium has returned.

Are you feeling jumbled these days? Are the waters of your mind and heart muddied? Try organizing something. A drawer. A closet. Your digital or physical desktop. A shelf. A room. Prioritize your schedule. Build in margin. Say no to things. If you do, the clear waters will soon return, and you’ll take another step toward Becoming Yourself.

2 Keys to Achieving Your Dreams (part 2): Perseverance

I stared at my laptop in despair.

On the screen were the Publishers Weekly announcements of new book deals next to photos of smiling authors. Of course they were smiling. They’d just had their publishing dream come true. Unlike me.

Last week I talked about the first key to achieving your dreams—being willing to pivot (you can read that here). After much procrastinating, I had pivoted from my tired dream of being a musician to my vibrant dream of being an author, but results were slow in coming. After three years of hard work, I’d encountered only a mountain of rejection.

My bestselling author wife Lisa McMann and many of my published author friends gave me the same advice—don’t give up. Keep fighting. Keep pushing. Keep working. Persevere. As one friend put it, “The main difference between an aspiring author and a published one is often that the published one didn’t quit.”

So I kept going. Kept writing. Kept studying my craft. Kept putting myself out there. And after three rejected novels, a fresh idea came. A spooky monster mystery series called Monsterious. I crafted it in a creative way and handed it off to my agent. A few weeks later, I got the call. It had sold in a four book deal to Penguin Random House, the largest English-language trade publisher in the world. 

What’s your dream? Have you pivoted toward it? If so, don’t give up. Keep learning. Keep working. Keep seeking help. Keep believing. Keep persevering. If you do, your dream will soon loom large, and you’ll take another step toward Becoming Yourself.

If you’d like more info on my published books, click here.

2 Keys to Achieving Your Dreams (part 1): Pivot

“Pivot. Pivot. Pivot!

If you’re a fan of the classic TV sitcom Friends, it’s an iconic scene. Ross is directing Rachael and Chandler on moving a couch up a switchback staircase, with predictably hilarious results. But hidden inside the humor is a clue to achieving your dreams.

I lived my dream of being a professional musician, but after twenty-six years the passion was gone. Still, it was comfortable, familiar, and easy, so when my long-buried dream of being an author resurfaced, I ignored it. Denied it. Tried to stuff it down.

When I finally acknowledged that music wasn’t fulfilling anymore and pivoted toward my new dream, the difference was palpable. The relief. The excitement. The energy. The passion. All the things I’d lost long ago doing music came flooding back when I focused on becoming an author.

None of us get everything we want in life. Many things are beyond our control. That said, how close is your current life to your dream life? Does your career, way of living, health, relationship, hobby, fill-in-the-blank, bring you deep satisfaction? Perhaps you’re holding on to something that was a dream-come-true in the past—is it still your dream now? Has your vision of your ideal life changed? Do you have the courage to pursue the new one?

Get quiet. Look deep inside. Be truly honest. Then ask yourself a hard question—are you ready to pivot? If so, tell people you trust. Make a plan. Take the first step. If you do, you’ll be on your way to achieving your dream, and you’ll take another step toward Becoming Yourself.

If you’d like to know more about my published books, click here.

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