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A Better Way to Approach Life

A good traveler has no fixed plans and is not intent on arriving.

lao tzu

That quote is not me. 

Plans. Lists. Schedules. That’s my style. 

But something about the perspective in that quote almost took my breath away. The freedom. The ease. The spontaneity. It sounds so appealing. 

That’s especially true right now. I just finished writing the fifth book in my Monsterious series on a tight deadline. I’m in the middle of an ambitious tour season with dozens of school and bookstore appearances in five states along with various interviews. My itineraries are ten pages long. Everything feels planned. While that’s a necessary part of my job, it highlights the appeal of lightly planned travel with a focus on the journey, not the destination. 

I’ve scheduled some serious downtime for November to live out this quote in an intentional way. While that’s a good thing, I believe “time off” is only half of what the quote is trying to teach. The real life-changing power of this perspective is not only to apply it in dedicated blocks of time, but to adopt it into my everyday life. Even while following detailed itineraries. 

I’m going to try my best over these next six weeks to travel lightly, keeping my mental and emotional baggage to carryon size. I’m sure I’ll fall short many times under the weariness and stress of the tour, but, as with all of my attempts at personal development, the effort itself is a victory. As C. S. Lewis wrote, “If the will to walk is there, God is pleased even with our stumbling.”

On your life’s journey, set aside time for unhurried, floating travel. Begin to shift your daily perspective to this more fluid and flexible state. If you do, you’ll experience lower stress and greater peace, and you’ll take another step toward Becoming Yourself.

The Important Difference Between Talents and Gifts

What is the difference between a talent and a gift?

I’d never clearly thought about the distinction, but the following excerpt from author and speaker Henri Nouwen resonates with me. It’s also incredibly encouraging. So often, I feel like my talents fail me or aren’t enough to meet a need or accomplish a goal. Knowing in those moments that I still have gifts to bring is gratifying.

This concept also opens my eyes to the value and contributions of others that I often overlook. I hope this simple yet profound idea helps you take another step toward Becoming Yourself.

More important than our talents are our gifts. We may have only a few talents, but we have many gifts. Our gifts are the many ways in which we express our humanity. They are part of who we are: friendship, kindness, patience, joy, peace, forgiveness, gentleness, love, hope, trust, and many others. These are the true gifts we have to offer to each other.

Somehow I have known this for a long time, especially through my personal experience of the enormous healing power of these gifts. But since my coming to live in a community with mentally handicapped people, I have rediscovered this simple truth. Few, if any, of those people have talents they can boast of. Few are able to make contributions to our society that allow them to earn money, compete on the open market, or win awards. But how splendid are their gifts!

henri nouwen

As featured in the Aug 17, 2023 Daily Meditation from The Henri Nouwen Society. Text excerpts taken from “You are the Beloved” by Henri J.M. Nouwen, © 2017 by The Henri Nouwen Legacy Trust. Published by Convergent Books

A Pause for Some Candy

I’m a “vegetables and candy” writer.

Those of you that know me from this blog read my vegetable writing—healthy, nourishing, and helpful for growth (hopefully).

But I make my living with my candy writing. I write books for kids, specifically a spooky monster mystery series called Monsterious.

Monsterious books are short, and as each is a stand alone adventure with a unique cast of characters, they can be read in any order. They’re a good fit for fans of Goosebumps, Stranger Things, and Five Nights at Freddy’s, if those franchises mean anything to you. While Monsterious is targeted for eight to twelve year olds, I write them in such a way that they can be enjoyed by anyone who loves a fast-paced spooky thriller with lots of action, humor, and heart.

Why am I telling you all this? For two simple reasons:

1. In case you’re interested in the books

2. In case you’d like to support my writing

I’ve always written this blog for free with no advertising. It’s a way for me to share my personal development journey in hopes that it helps others with theirs. If you’ve enjoyed this blog and want to support it, buying my books for yourself or for others is a great way to do that. I’m in the crucial early stage of my book publishing career where finding an audience is so important. Book sales are what convince my publisher (Penguin Random House) to continue the series, so I can make a living as an author.

If you’re still reading this and want to know what my books are about, here’s a quick peek:

ESCAPE FROM GRIMSTONE MANOR – Three friends are trapped overnight in a haunted house amusement park ride and discover the monsters are real.

THE SNATCHER OF RAVEN HOLLOW – Two friends learn that a monster is responsible for the disappearance of babies in their small town, but no one believes them.

TERROR IN SHADOW CANYON – Five hikers lost in a remote wilderness are stalked by a monster.

More info and buy links for these books are at MattMcMann.com.

Thanks so much for allowing me to share the other half of my writing mind with you. Next week I’ll be back with another serving of vegetables. In the meantime, I hope you’ll enjoy the candy as you take another step toward Becoming Yourself.

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