Becoming Yourself

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The Wonderful Superfluousness of Beauty

It was completely superfluous.

During the recent Spring Arts Festival that took over Tempe, Arizona where I live, the city hired an artist to paint a giant sunflower on the circle drive in front of my office building.

Between the cleaning, prep work, and painting, it shut down the little street for six days. Deliveries were halted. It was highly inconvenient. And who knows how much money it cost the city to pay workers to prep the space, buy the paint, and hire the artist.

As I watched the work progress directly below my office window, I was reminded of a quote:

It is the useless things that make life worth living and that make life dangerous too: wine, love, art, beauty. Without them life is safe, but not worth bothering with.

stephen fry

There is a superfluous nature to beauty. It’s not like food, water, oxygen, or shelter. We don’t need it to exist. But is the goal of human life mere existence? Just piling up as many days as possible before succumbing to the inevitability of death? I think not. I’d rather live a short abundant life than a long bleak one. I’m guessing you would too.

So I say bravo to the city of Tempe. I wholeheartedly support the use of my tax dollars on “superfluous” beauty. Thank you for making my life a little brighter, a little more colorful, and for bringing a smile to my face each time I glance out the window.   

What “superfluous” beauty can you enjoy today? Take a walk in a park. Stroll an art gallery. Stream a YouTube nature video on your TV. Set out fresh flowers. Frame a picture you love. Surround yourself with beauty. If you do, you’ll breathe more life into living, and you’ll take another step toward Becoming Yourself.

Break Your Ruts by Challenging Your Assumptions

I love ruts.

I thrive in routines. They are comfortable. They are reliable. They make me more efficient.

They are also limiting. Fresh ideas, bursts of creativity, and breakthrough solutions to vexing problems are seldom born of routine. I was reminded of this by a recent article:

More than 90 percent of 61 British companies that participated in a test of a four-day workweek said they would continue trying out the policy, with 18 of them saying they were adopting it permanently. From June through November 2022, the companies shifted their 2,900 workers to working four days a week, or 32 hours, at the same pay. The companies logged “sharp drops in worker turnover and absenteeism while largely maintaining productivity,” The Wall Street Journal reported. The idea of shortening the conventional 40-hour, five-day week gained supporters during the coronavirus pandemic. Nearly half of the employees in the study said their mental health improved. Fifteen percent said “no amount of money” would convince them to go back to a five-day week.

the week magazine, february 22, 2023

The concept of a four-day work week is not new, but to my methodical, head-down-and-grind way of thinking, it’s a radical idea. The companies in this study demonstrated a willingness to challenge long-held assumptions and embrace out-of-the-box thinking. I deeply admire that.

As someone committed to personal development, I know this is a growth edge for me. Becoming the best emotional, mental, and spiritual version of myself requires an openness to new perspectives and the commitment to question familiar habits. While it may not come naturally, it’s necessary. What is normal is not necessarily what is best.

How about you? What emotional, mental, spiritual, or physical ruts are you in? List them. Analyze each one honestly. Hold no routine sacred. Brainstorm new approaches. Experiment with change. If you do, you may find a jolt of energizing growth, and you’ll take another step toward Becoming Yourself.

The Healing Power of Vulnerability

Admitting weakness is hard for me.

I prefer to share how the personal development practices I’ve learned help me lead a more joyful, peaceful, and meaningful life. But being open about my recent struggles in my last post brought relief. The act of sharing honestly, of being vulnerable, eased some of the weight I’d been carrying. And rather than judgement, I received a flood of support, understanding, prayers, and encouragement from so many of you. I was very touched and felt carried.

My family is settling in to the new normal of life without a loved one. My lingering physical illness is mostly gone. I’ve checked some big things off my to do list in advance of my books being released. The author part of my identity has shrunk into a healthier balance.

This experience reinforced a lesson I’ve learned again and again—being appropriately vulnerable with others about my struggles brings healing. Not only do I personally benefit from the love and support, but the people around me feel less alone in their own pain. 

So when the hard times come, drop your guard. Be honest. Let people in. Share your struggles. Embrace vulnerability. If you do, you’ll feel the weight begin to ease, and you’ll take another step toward Becoming Yourself.

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