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The Beautiful Marriage of Science and Spirituality

It never made sense to me. 

As someone who has had a spiritual bent all my life, the supposed conflict between science and religion always puzzled me. How could religion ignore the clear evidence of science? How could science claim to be the sole source of truth? Both areas seemed to shed light on my search for answers to the big questions of life—who am I? Why am I here? Where am I going?

I view faith and reason as two sides of the same coin. To reject either is like shutting one eye while gazing at a beautiful sunset—you’re not getting the full picture. 

This perspective was wonderfully summarized by author and teacher Richard Rohr in a recent Daily Meditation from his Center for Action and Contemplation. I hope it helps you on your journey toward Becoming Yourself. 

RICHARD ROHR:

The common scientific method relies on hypothesis, experiment, trial, and error. We might call this “practice” or “practices”! Yes, much of science is limited to the materialistic level, but at least the method is more open-ended and sincere than that of the many religious people who do no living experiments with faith, hope, and love, but just hang on to quotes and doctrines.  

Under normal circumstances, most scientists are willing to move forward with some degree of not-knowing; in fact, this is what calls them forward and motivates them. Every new discovery is affirmed while openness to new evidence that would tweak or even change the previous “belief” is maintained. In contrast, many religious people insist upon complete “knowing” at the beginning and being certain every step of the way. It actually keeps them more “rational,” “fact-based,” and controlling than the scientists. This is the dead end of most fundamentalist religion, and why it cannot deal with thorny issues in any creative or compassionate way. Law reigns and discernment is unnecessary. 

The scientific mind has come up with what seem like beliefs: for example, explanations of dark matter, black holes, chaos theory, fractals (the part replicates the whole), string theory, dark energy, neutrinos (light inside of the entire universe even where it appears to be dark), and atomic theory itself. Scientists investigate and teach on things like electromagnetism, radioactivity, field theory, and various organisms such as viruses and bacteria before they can actually “prove” they exist. They know them first by their effects, or the evidence, and then work backward to verify their existence. 

Even though the entire world has been captivated by the strict cause-and-effect worldview of Newtonian physics for several centuries, such immediately verifiable physics has finally yielded to quantum physics. While it isn’t directly visible to the ordinary observer, it ends up explaining much more—without needing to throw out the other. True transcendence always includes! 

It feels as if there are some scientists of each age who are brilliant, seemingly “right,” but also tentative—which creates a practical humility that we often do not see in clergy and “true believers.” A great scientist builds on a perpetual “beginner’s mind.” Many scientists believe in the reality of things that are invisible, and thus the active reality of a “spiritual” world, more than do many believers. Thus, although they might be “materialists,” they actually have the material world defined with an openness to a “spirit” that they themselves often cannot understand. Is this not “faith”? 

Maybe this is all summed up in these words of Saint John Paul II: “Science can purify religion from error and superstition; religion can purify science from idolatry and false absolutes. Each can draw the other into a wider world, a world in which both can flourish.” [1] So let’s walk forward with wide and rich sight! 

As shared in the Dec 3, 2024 Daily Meditation from the Center for Action and Contemplation (cac.org). [1] John Paul II to George V. Coyne, SJ, Director of the Vatican Observatory, June 1, 1988. Adapted from Richard Rohr, introduction to ONEING 2, no. 2, Evidence (Fall 2014): 13–14. Available in print and PDF download

Dream Derailed? You’re Not Alone

It’s deflating. 

My lifelong dream of becoming a published author came true. Over the last year and a half, I’ve published five books with the biggest trade publisher in the country. Been on multiple national book tours. Appeared at some of the most well-regarded book festivals. Even did multiple author panels with one of my literary heroes, Goosebumps author R. L. Stine. 

And then my next series idea got rejected. After taking that sting, I finished another book and tried again. That one just got rejected too. 

When you reach the mountaintop and experience the success you long dreamed of, it can fool you into thinking you’ll remain there. The truth is, that’s normally not the case, at least not in a highly competitive creative field. Today’s hot new author (not that I ever was that) can become tomorrow’s has-been with mind numbing speed. It’s humbling. 

But the opposite is also true. When we experience repeated setbacks, it can feel like things will never change. Our success is over. We’ll always lose, be rejected, be ignored. That’s not reality either. 

The hard truth is this—success comes and goes. You’re up one minute and down the next. You’re applauded, then forgotten. When you venture into the arena to fight for your dreams, be prepared to get whacked. The smackdown is almost inevitable. What matters is how we choose to respond. 

It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself in a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat.—Theodore Roosevelt

I’m going to keep fighting. I believe in my latest book, so my agent is going to send it to other editors. While that painfully slow process happens, I’m going to work on a new novel. Keep trudging, keep pushing, keep putting one foot in front of the other in pursuit of my dream of a sustained author career. 

What dream do you have that’s worth the struggle? Make a plan, take a deep breath, and step into the arena. Fight the good fight. When you get smacked down, let yourself feel the pain, then shake off the blow, pull yourself up and start again. If you do, your dream just might come true. At worst, you’ll never be one of those timid souls who never dared to try, and you’ll take a giant step toward Becoming Yourself. 

Mystified? Try a Different Perspective

I was stumped. 

I sat on my cruise ship balcony and stared at the object floating on the Mediterranean in the distance. It was white and oddly shaped. Too small for a boat. Too far from shore for a buoy. The wrong shape for an animal. Too large for trash. 

I pondered awhile, mystified. 

Then as our ship pulled further away, I saw the object from a different angle. It was, quite clearly, a small boat. I’d previously been staring directly at the bow and utterly confused. Now seeing it from the side, its identity was obvious. 

How often have I had that exact experience with other events in my life? Something unexpected happens, and I’m utterly perplexed. Frustrated. Confused. What is this? Why is it happening? Why did I fail at my job? What does this diagnosis mean? Why did she leave?

And then time passes. I look back on an experience with a new perspective and suddenly the reason is clear. Why it occurred. How my own actions contributed to it. What it did for me. How it helped me grow. I don’t understand everything, but much of what was once a haze often comes into sharp relief.

When you face a frustratingly mysterious event in your life, pause. Take a calming breath. Try to look at it objectively, without judgement. Shift your gaze to different perspectives. Give it time. If you do, the answers you seek may become clear, and you’ll take another step toward Becoming Yourself.

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