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Want a More Interesting Life? Do More Interesting Things

It was a humbling moment.

In training for our walk across northern Spain next spring on the Camino de Santiago (I wrote about how that came about HERE), my wife Lisa and I recently hiked Wind Cave Trail in Mesa Arizona in the US. While ascending a steep section, we stepped aside to allow a faster couple to pass us. We saw the couple clearly for the first time on reaching the summit. They were seventy-three years old.

I complemented them on their hiking speed up the challenging ascent. The woman shrugged and said, “This was a slow day for us. It took us thirty-five minutes when we normally do it in thirty-three.” (Lisa and I are in our mid-fifties, and it had taken us almost an hour). They were getting ready to hike through Glacier National Park.

As we took in the hard-earned view, we fell into conversation with another woman our age. She told us that she’d struggled with depression and poor health earlier in the year before deciding to start hiking. She’d summited this trail every day for six months straight and had now rebounded both physically and emotionally.

I’m more motivated than ever to continue training because of these encounters. I realized we’d only met these interesting people because we’d decided to do an interesting thing—walk hundreds of miles across Spain on the Camino de Santiago. Had we not committed to this adventure, we wouldn’t have hiked to Wind Cave and wouldn’t have met these inspiring people.

My wife Lisa and me on Wind Cave Trail

Are you feeling in a rut? Does your social interaction feel stale? Choose to do something interesting. Take a modern dance class. Learn tai chi. Volunteer for Meals on Wheels. Travel to a place you’ve only seen on Instagram. If you do, you’ll have a more interesting life with interesting people, and you’ll take another step toward Becoming Yourself.

A Chance Encounter, a Strange Idea, and a Wild Journey

It started with a chance encounter.

Our nomadic journey recently took my wife and I on a cruise through the Panama Canal. One day at lunch, we struck up a conversation with a woman in her mid-sixties who was traveling alone. When we learned she was a frequent traveler, we asked what some of her favorite trips had been. She glowingly talked about walking the Camino de Santiago.

Having never heard of it, Lisa and I were intrigued. The woman described a walk of hundreds of miles across northern Spain to the city of Santiago. We didn’t get into much detail, but the idea stuck with us long after the cruise. 

A few months later, we were having dinner with our daughter’s neighbor whom we pet sit for. We were already booked to stay at her place to watch her cat Pixie for five weeks this fall, but didn’t know where she would be traveling. When we asked, we were stunned by her answer—she will be biking the Camino de Santiago.

Fascinated by the coincidence, we plied her with questions:

1. What is the Camino de Santiago? A 500 mile trek traveled by pilgrims for more than 1200 years.

2. What’s the route? Start in St Jean Pied de Port in southwest France, cross the Pyrenees Mountains and head west across northern Spain to the city of Santiago. 

3. Where do you sleep? In hostel-like albergues or small hotels.

4. What do you eat? The “pilgrims meals” provided by albergues or in cafes along the route.

5. Where do you go to the bathroom? In the towns or fields along the way.

6. How do you get drinking water? Fill your water bottles from innumerable public fountains of potable water.

7. How long does it take? About 30 days to walk depending on your speed.

As we left that dinner, Lisa and I looked at each other and realized we both had the same mildly insane question—should we walk the Camino de Santiago?

For the last few weeks, we’ve talked extensively about the Camino. We’ve watched a movie about it starting Martin Sheen called The Way (highly recommended) and three documentaries. We’ve started reading a guide book to the Camino, and Lisa has done a deep dive on a Camino sub-reddit.

We were hooked. We booked our travel to France for mid April 2026 and our return trip from Portugal at the end of May 2026, leaving forty days in between to walk the Camino de Santiago.

Me and Lisa after our first training hike

A few days ago, we completed our first training hike on a mountainous loop trail in northern Arizona. We have a lot of work ahead of us to prepare for this extraordinary and challenging adventure. Will we walk the full 500 miles? I have no idea. But as we’ve heard over and over from people who have done it, you have to walk your Camino, not anyone else’s. Your length. At your pace. In your way. For your reasons.

Not knowing exactly what our Camino will be like is part of the fun. All I know now is that we’re incredibly enthused and motivated. Committing to some version of this adventure has filled us with focus and excitement, giving us a wild goal to shoot for and something meaningful to share. What will happen? Watch this space. We’ll find out together.

View from our first training hike

What motivates you? What out-of-the-box idea makes your heart beat faster? Research it. Start a plan. Find someone to share it with. Make a commitment. If you do, you’ll feel more deeply alive, and you’ll take another step toward Becoming Yourself.

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Reframe Your Perspective on Interruptions

It’s an incongruous pairing. 

I’m a routine person. I thrive in predictable patterns, set schedules and dependable habits. 

Living nomadically does not lend itself to structure. Nine months ago, my wife and I sold our home and most of our possessions and hit the road, living in short term rentals, cruise ships, pet-sitting locations, and with friends and family. The freedom and spontaneity have been amazing, but it’s hard to keep a routine when you’re regularly in different places

One of the many lessons nomadic life is teaching me is to reframe my perspective on inevitable interruptions to my cherished routines. Here are some ways I’m trying to live that out:

1. Live in the moment

I excel at processing the past and anticipating the future. I struggle to be present, mentally and emotionally engaged in the here and now, savoring what’s right in front of me. It’s a tired but accurate cliche based on a quote by Eleanor Roosevelt—Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That’s why it’s called the present. I’m trying to live in the moment, even in the midst of interruptions.

2. Find God in everything

I have a 40 minute spiritual practice each morning (10 minutes of spiritual reading, 10 minutes of silent meditation, 20 minutes of prayer). I love it. It grounds me and prepares me mentally and emotionally for the day, but sometimes that routine just doesn’t work with our nomadic schedule. I lack either the time or the space or both. I’m learning to remember that the practice isn’t the point—connecting with God is. As I believe that God is everywhere and in everything, I’m learning to find God in whatever activity demands my time and attention throughout the day.

Photo by Natalia Sobolivska on Unsplash

3. Embrace spontaneity

Spontaneity does not come naturally to me. I’m far too rigid and controlling. I’m trying to look at spontaneous interruptions as opportunities to pivot from my plans and embrace what gifts the unexpected has to offer. Some of the best moments of my life, as well as the deepest lessons, have come from what I initially saw as interruptions.

How do you view interruptions? When they inevitably come, take a breath. Try to reframe your perspective. Live in the moment. Find God or the universe or your higher power in everything. Embrace spontaneity. If you do, you’ll have more peaceful, enjoyable life, and you’ll take another step toward Becoming Yourself.

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