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A Chance Encounter, a Strange Idea, and a Wild Journey

It started with a chance encounter.

Our nomadic journey recently took my wife and I on a cruise through the Panama Canal. One day at lunch, we struck up a conversation with a woman in her mid-sixties who was traveling alone. When we learned she was a frequent traveler, we asked what some of her favorite trips had been. She glowingly talked about walking the Camino de Santiago.

Having never heard of it, Lisa and I were intrigued. The woman described a walk of hundreds of miles across northern Spain to the city of Santiago. We didn’t get into much detail, but the idea stuck with us long after the cruise. 

A few months later, we were having dinner with our daughter’s neighbor whom we pet sit for. We were already booked to stay at her place to watch her cat Pixie for five weeks this fall, but didn’t know where she would be traveling. When we asked, we were stunned by her answer—she will be biking the Camino de Santiago.

Fascinated by the coincidence, we plied her with questions:

1. What is the Camino de Santiago? A 500 mile trek traveled by pilgrims for more than 1200 years.

2. What’s the route? Start in St Jean Pied de Port in southwest France, cross the Pyrenees Mountains and head west across northern Spain to the city of Santiago. 

3. Where do you sleep? In hostel-like albergues or small hotels.

4. What do you eat? The “pilgrims meals” provided by albergues or in cafes along the route.

5. Where do you go to the bathroom? In the towns or fields along the way.

6. How do you get drinking water? Fill your water bottles from innumerable public fountains of potable water.

7. How long does it take? About 30 days to walk depending on your speed.

As we left that dinner, Lisa and I looked at each other and realized we both had the same mildly insane question—should we walk the Camino de Santiago?

For the last few weeks, we’ve talked extensively about the Camino. We’ve watched a movie about it starting Martin Sheen called The Way (highly recommended) and three documentaries. We’ve started reading a guide book to the Camino, and Lisa has done a deep dive on a Camino sub-reddit.

We were hooked. We booked our travel to France for mid April 2026 and our return trip from Portugal at the end of May 2026, leaving forty days in between to walk the Camino de Santiago.

Me and Lisa after our first training hike

A few days ago, we completed our first training hike on a mountainous loop trail in northern Arizona. We have a lot of work ahead of us to prepare for this extraordinary and challenging adventure. Will we walk the full 500 miles? I have no idea. But as we’ve heard over and over from people who have done it, you have to walk your Camino, not anyone else’s. Your length. At your pace. In your way. For your reasons.

Not knowing exactly what our Camino will be like is part of the fun. All I know now is that we’re incredibly enthused and motivated. Committing to some version of this adventure has filled us with focus and excitement, giving us a wild goal to shoot for and something meaningful to share. What will happen? Watch this space. We’ll find out together.

View from our first training hike

What motivates you? What out-of-the-box idea makes your heart beat faster? Research it. Start a plan. Find someone to share it with. Make a commitment. If you do, you’ll feel more deeply alive, and you’ll take another step toward Becoming Yourself.

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Reframe Your Perspective on Interruptions

It’s an incongruous pairing. 

I’m a routine person. I thrive in predictable patterns, set schedules and dependable habits. 

Living nomadically does not lend itself to structure. Nine months ago, my wife and I sold our home and most of our possessions and hit the road, living in short term rentals, cruise ships, pet-sitting locations, and with friends and family. The freedom and spontaneity have been amazing, but it’s hard to keep a routine when you’re regularly in different places

One of the many lessons nomadic life is teaching me is to reframe my perspective on inevitable interruptions to my cherished routines. Here are some ways I’m trying to live that out:

1. Live in the moment

I excel at processing the past and anticipating the future. I struggle to be present, mentally and emotionally engaged in the here and now, savoring what’s right in front of me. It’s a tired but accurate cliche based on a quote by Eleanor Roosevelt—Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That’s why it’s called the present. I’m trying to live in the moment, even in the midst of interruptions.

2. Find God in everything

I have a 40 minute spiritual practice each morning (10 minutes of spiritual reading, 10 minutes of silent meditation, 20 minutes of prayer). I love it. It grounds me and prepares me mentally and emotionally for the day, but sometimes that routine just doesn’t work with our nomadic schedule. I lack either the time or the space or both. I’m learning to remember that the practice isn’t the point—connecting with God is. As I believe that God is everywhere and in everything, I’m learning to find God in whatever activity demands my time and attention throughout the day.

3. Embrace spontaneity

Spontaneity does not come naturally to me. I’m far too rigid and controlling. I’m trying to look at spontaneous interruptions as opportunities to pivot from my plans and embrace what gifts the unexpected has to offer. Some of the best moments of my life, as well as the deepest lessons, have come from what I initially saw as interruptions.

How do you view interruptions? When they inevitably come, take a breath. Try to reframe your perspective. Live in the moment. Find God or the universe or your higher power in everything. Embrace spontaneity. If you do, you’ll have more peaceful, enjoyable life, and you’ll take another step toward Becoming Yourself.

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The Invitation You Should Probably Decline

An invitation is a mixed bag. 

On one hand, it feels good to be thought of. Noticed. Wanted. Included. On the other hand, accepting is a commitment of time, energy, and sometimes money. And there’s often a sense of obligation that comes with an invitation—I don’t want to accept, but I feel like I should.

Invitations come in many varieties—parties, ball games, dates, charitable events, groups, etc. Welcome or not, those kinds of invitations are usually clear and understandable.

What is often murkier is when you’re invited to an argument. That’s when someone is passionate about an issue, often upset, and wants you to be a part of it. At times, accepting that invitation is a good, necessary, and noble thing to do. Sometimes we should engage to stand up for someone being oppressed, for a principle we believe in, for a cause worth fighting for.

But that’s often not the case. Many times, someone has a self-serving agenda, an ax to grind, or misplaced anger, and they want to suck you into their misery. These invitations should almost always be declined. The odds of you emerging victorious, or even making a positive impact, are low. More than likely, you’ll end up wasting your time and emotional energy, then walking away feeling beat up and frustrated.

So when someone invites you to an argument, pause. Recognize it for what it is. Decide if it’s a cause worth fighting for. Does it resonate with who you are and align with what you believe is yours to do? If so, accept. If not, politely decline and walk away. If you do, you’ll enjoy a more peaceful life, and you’ll take another step toward Becoming Yourself.

This post was originally published Oct 15, 2022.

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