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Month: October 2021 (Page 1 of 2)

Feeling Anxious? Believe in Something Bigger Than Yourself

I recently felt anxious for a few days. 

Anxious about money. About my career. About my future. During my morning time of meditation and prayer on one of those days, I talked about those feelings with God. As I did, some lyrics to an unfinished song I’d written years ago came back to me:

If You carved the mountains

If You formed the valleys 

If You filled the oceans

You can care for me

If You call the sunrise

If You paint the starlight

If You hold the whole world

You can care for me

As I reflected on those words, I felt myself grow calmer. If God is who I think God is, then I’m going to be okay. My financial needs, my career, my future will work out. Do I need to plan wisely? Yes. Do I need to work diligently? Yes. Do I need to be anxious? If my beliefs are well placed, no. 

Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.

the Bible, philippians 4:6,7 (New living translation)

I found relief from my anxiety by believing in something bigger than myself. For me, that’s God. For you God may be a non-starter. I completely understand and respect that position. The “bigger than yourself” principle can still apply. Consider a group, an organization, a philosophy, or what twelve-step programs call your “higher power,” whatever you choose that to be. Find something bigger than yourself to believe in, to hold onto, to lean on when the anxious times come. Make it something worthy of your trust. If you do, you’ll find relief and take another step toward Becoming Yourself.

My Daily Personal Growth Mistake

I’m guilty of it virtually every day. 

When I see someone on the street, in a store or restaurant, even on TV, within seconds I make judgements about their personality, choices, character, past mistakes, present circumstances, future prospects, etc. These nearly instantaneous assessments can be positive or negative.

And they’re often wrong.

Here’s a story from our city of Tempe Arizona’s effort to end homelessness. It reminded me of just how misplaced my snap judgements usually are:

DJ was often overlooked by those passing him by on the streets. But our HOPE outreach team (Homeless Outreach Prevention Effort) always took notice, offering snacks and water as they worked to build rapport and gain his trust. At times, it was difficult for the 67-year-old man to communicate. Patiently, our team pieced together bits of his life: military service, a serious gunshot wound, a months-long coma, confusion wandering the streets, forgotten family, an inability to ask for help. 

DJ, called “crazy’’ by some, was a man who served his country and rose to the rank of colonel. 

Our outreach specialists offered DJ a motel room in the city’s temporary shelter program, provided basic necessities, began gathering ID and other vital documents, helped reinstate his Social Security, and reconnected him with veterans’ services. Through their work, DJ also learned that he had had a wife. Confused at first, he showed a glimmer of recognition and another piece of his history fell into place.

Outreach specialist Amanda Fleming, who is now working to secure permanent housing for DJ, says: “DJ never has to sleep another night on the streets, and he is able to receive some of the services he deserves as a man who fought for our country.”

Tempe homeless solutions update, october 14, 2021

I wonder if I’ve seen DJ as I’ve walked through the city. If I did, I can confidently say that my judgements about him weren’t remotely close to the truth. And not nearly charitable enough.

As you observe people today, take a moment to pause. Remember DJ. Let your judgements be kind. Generous. Compassionate. Err on the side of grace. Think of them as you’d like them to think of you. If you do, the eyes of your heart will sharpen, and you’ll take another step toward Becoming Yourself.

How to Refresh Your Mind, Body and Spirit

It’s cold this October morning in Vancouver. 

I snug my jacket closer and take another sip of hot tea as I gaze up at the star-filled sky. Dawn is still an hour away, and the only sounds are the gurgling stream and the birds stirring in the nearby forest. 

I love the walkable city in Arizona where my wife and I live. The convenience. The restaurants, shops, activities, and friends.

But after awhile, I feel a pull in my spirit. A restlessness. An itch to wander beneath towering trees. To breathe clean, crisp air. To soak in the beauty and stillness of nature.

The Vancouver park behind our Airbnb

Here in Vancouver, Canada where our daughter lives, nature isn’t hard to find. The deck of our Airbnb sits on the edge of a primal-looking forest criss-crossed with trails. Stepping a hundred feet off the road is like being transported to Middle Earth.

I’m far from the first to point out the positive effects of being in nature. How it heals our spirits. Cleanses our minds. Awakens our bodies. But as clearly as I know this truth, I’m prone to forget it. The busyness of life, all its demands and distractions, pushes the need for time in nature to the back of my mind.

The Vancouver park behind our Airbnb

So I write this as a reminder to myself as well as an encouragement to you. Find ways to regularly spend time in nature. Stroll through a park. Take a drive to the country. Make the effort to get to a natural environment for a week, a weekend, a day, an afternoon, an hour. Go for a hike. Sit in silence. Soak in the beauty. Just be. If you do, you’ll find yourself refreshed in more ways than one, and you’ll take another step toward Becoming Yourself.

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